On Self-Confidence Or: Linking Thinking

Toa Heftiba

I was listening to best life ever podcast on the drive to my day job the other day about reversing your usual thinking towards focussing on who you want to BE rather than what you want to HAVE.

It was inspiring to hear them riff together as they are so natural it is obvious that they are truly passionate about the subject and doing what they are supposed to be doing in the world - I hope that everyone can find their thing.

Anyway, it made me think of Think and Grow Rich.  When I read it, I thought that the first few pages were a bit woo-woo, but that the rest of the book was one of the most practical books I have read.  If you don't have money, work for someone else; work to learn, not to earn etc.  Only much later after reading it, and relatively recently, I found out that the book is heralded by the manifestation community, the Secret, the "put a thought out into the world and sit and wait" brigade.

How could the same book be taken in two different ways?  I got from the book that I need self-confidence and hard work, whilst others got the "think".  Just think and you will be rich.

Maybe I picked up what I needed?  Maybe others didn't actually read it and just read the title?  I guess it doesn't matter.  Anyway, the Best Life Ever episode reminded me of Think and Grow Rich as I have the affirmation from that book in my morning routine.  It says, "I shall keep trying until I have developed sufficient self-confidence for its [definite chief aim in life] attainment."  In fact, self-confidence is scattered throughout the book.

So, linking the two, book and podcast, I got a moment of an epiphany.  To get the self-confidence to reach my goals, I just need to BE someone who has self-confidence in reaching their goals.  What would that look like?

Have you ever bought anything off an unconfident salesperson?  It feels awkward and creepy or just downright terrible experience.  BE the opposite of that.  Be passionate, be outgoing, go to conferences.  Shout about your product and be proud of it.

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