At what point are you going to care if you are enjoying life?
Watching Eden on All 4 earlier in the year, where a group of people are segregated from the rest of society for a year.
A question struck me, when are they going to allow themselves to enjoy their time there? After a day, a month, after 3 months?
At the start, it is easy to assume that hard work is needed. Chopping wood, building shelter, gathering food. But at what point is it okay to take a break? At what point is it okay to not work 12 hours a day manual labour.
The people doing all the manual labour were getting angry at those not "pulling their weight". They already had shelter and someone decided to make more shelter. They already had a way of cooking and dividing food and someone wanted to improve it.
If you don't get your priorities sorted early, then what are you chasing? Or running away from?
The people not “pulling their weight” have “excuses”. “I don't know how to do it”. “I'm not as strong as you”. And some of those excuses are valid reasons.
Why fight to be good at someone else’s strengths when you are never going be as good as that person. Because they want you to? Because they are angry at you? Because they are more forceful than you?
But the people working excessively also have “excuses” to keep working. “If I don't do it no one will”. “I have to do this because I know it is best for everyone”.
A subgroup of “workers” even discussed starving the group to get the weaker ones to leave. It struck me that no one acts badly when they are happy. If they were all paired up and in love, then I doubt that conversation would have happened.
Even if they got their way and had everyone help with the task that they decided was a priority, they would still find something, some excuse, not to be happy.
Happiness is a choice and it needs to come first before any "thing". Otherwise you will always be chasing it. Or running away from it. And Sometimes it is difficult to know which direction you are headed.
You need to work on yourself, on controlling your mind, otherwise it will control you. And you might not like the person you are when it is out of control.
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What would you do with and extra hour per day?