At the start of your career, job or project, get lots of feedback. At some point when you know yourself, better to forget feedback from all but the best of what you want to become.
It is biased by the perception of the person giving it to you. It almost impossible to not be wrapped in their desires rather than your best interests. And, as change is much slower than people realise, it will be hard for them to notice when you are making progress.
Do you really want to be become like your boss? Why set your sights so low? You can get information from anyone in the world that you admire. Read a book, send an email, schedule a call, buy a mentor. Just because you have access to someone that is slightly higher than you does not mean they will have good advice.
Instead, look inwards and focus on habits. Progress is exponential, not linear.
Doing something small each day will not seem to be doing much in the short term, but this is the key to lasting change. You will shoot past everyone above you. Stay the course.
Why not do this every day? What would you do with an extra hour per day? You can easily get an hour back from your unproductive meetings.
“Have you ever had a crazy busy day, worked your tail off, raced against the clock, and then, against all odds, finished early? That extra hour or two of life that you reclaim is an absolute gift—a bonus that makes you feel like the world is on your side. You hit the gym and go for a run, head out for cocktails with friends, or race home to tuck the little ones into bed”
~ Tony Robbins, Money Master The Game
Spend money to buy time
Anything that you derive no joy from. Anything that you do not want to learn. Anything that you do not want to get better at. Outsource.
You want to look at a nice garden more than you want to do gardening. You want to enjoy the peace of a nicely decorated room more than you want to be a decorator. You want to enjoy a clean kitchen more than being a cleaner.
The reason why most people do these things themselves is because they do not value their own time.
Work out the ROI. You can afford more help than you think.
If it takes a professional two days to decorate a room, how long is it going to take you? Twice as long?
What about how much they charge? Is a painter earning more per hour than you? If so, become a painter. If not, employ one. Hint, your time should be priceless.
The question is, if you take away all the busy work. You hire a gardener, a cleaner, a professional chef (yes you can afford this if you buy lunch and drink three mocha-choca-lattes every day). What are you going to do with your time?
If you have no excuses left, guess what? You might be able to do the dream job that you have been putting off for so long. Or you might not. Realise though that the busy work is just an excuse. The real thing that is in your way is fear of failing.
Be prepared to fail. Or make the version of "success" so small that you cannot fail. Taking the first step forwards is a win. Or you could watch Netfilx.
Okay, so this is an app recommendation and a book recommendation in one. Basically if you need more gratitude in your life, this is easiest way I have found to get it. It literally takes only 5mins or less each day, so why not try it. I have found the book to be best, but the app is great if you are travelling, or need to do the journal whilst on the go.
Pic below is from the five minute journal website, but gives a good overview of what it is all about:
All great things started with a thought. If you have an idea, you are part way there. If you do not know how to get it into reality, then this book is for you.
The start is a little "woo-woo", but if you persevere and think about how it could be true rather than the reasons it can't then you will be on the path to creating something great.
"REMEMBER THIS, if you suffer from a feeling of inferiority, because your schooling has been limited.
It is easier than ever for anyone to schedule a meeting so it is more important than ever that you do it right. Organisations are being crippled by poorly run meetings because no one is taking the time to prepare anymore.
What do you want to get out of the meeting? Write that down. Put it in the subject of the meeting invite.
It should start with a verb, preferably "decide". If it starts with "discuss", then cancel the meeting immediately. Better to spend your time canvassing opinions one on one until you know enough to propose some options and make a clear decision.
Imagine receiving a meeting invite that read “Decide what products we are offering to Walmart next quarter.” Or another that read “Strategy catch up.”
You know when one of these ends, after the decision is made. When does the other one end? Likely never.
Sharpen your axe.
Like this? Read Part II
Are you sick of having a full day of back to back meetings? You are rushing from one meeting to the next and are always late.
No time for lunch, no time to think and no time to do any actual work. No time for the kid’s Xmas play or exercise or just relaxing.
Remember these two simple things:
People come to salaried jobs as if they have infinite time. They take up others time. They make jobs for themselves.
Would you rather employ someone who in the office for 14 hours a day or someone who gets things done and has a life outside of work?
“It is with life as it is with a play, - it matters not how long the action is spun out, but how good the acting is.” ~ Seneca
Remind yourself that you are going to die someday. Then look how much is being accomplished in the meeting you are sitting in. Would you rather be sitting in this meeting or out exercising, learning to play an instrument, seeing your children.
Remember that time is not infinite and then make better choices. The faster you reach a decision, the faster you can get on living.
“Would you not think him an utter fool who wept because he was not alive a thousand years ago? And is he not just as much of a fool who weeps because he will not be alive a thousand years from now? It is all the same; you will not be, and you were not. Neither of these periods of time belongs to you. You have been cast upon this point of time; if you would make it longer, how much longer shall you make it?” ~ Seneca