What If You Are The Average Of Your Five Closest Fuck-Tards?

Jack Hamilton

You are the average of the five people you most closely associate.  This is timeless wisdom that has come up again and again.  But what if you are stuck?  Stuck in a small town.  Stuck in a job.  Stuck with your family.
 
What if there are no inspirational people around?  What if the five people that you spend the most time with are complete fuck-tards that you will never learn anything from?
 
You still have choices.
 
Stuck in a small town?  Move.
Stuck in a job? Leave.
Stuck with your family? Don't visit them; ignore them; practice being tolerant.
 
If none of these is palatable, remember that we have lots of books accumulated over the course of history and... guess what, it is 2018 and we have the internet.  You can surround yourself with virtual mentors who will teach you to think differently than your contemporaries.
 
Thinking differently can be dangerous.  The people you currently have around you might not like that you are trying to better yourself.  Well, if it was easy, everyone would do it. Did you think rising to the top would be easy? Just because you want it, doesn't mean they are going to give it to you.
 
Forget about your current five people and focus on your new five virtual mentors.  Work on yourself, your compassion, forgiveness, tolerance.  They didn't come into this town, into this job today, or into your life trying to be fuck-tards.  How can you help them to help you get to where you want to be?
 
Some people are hard to change, and you will at some point likely need to break free from them.  But at least try.  If someone is hurting you to the point that it is stopping you improving yourself then whether temporary or permanently, you need to take a break from them.
 
This could just be in one area of your life too.  Have negative parents? Well they probably mean well so rather than cutting them out of your life, just don't talk to them about that risky venture they will probably disapprove of.  What's their issue and what's yours?

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